Want to know the real difference between me and you? I’m going to let you in on a little secret…there isn’t a difference. I am human. I am a part-time working/part-time stay at home mom. I am a wife…and not always the best one. I have successes and failures. I can be energetic or tired. I am in shape sometimes, and sometimes not so much. I am secure in myself, yet have my moments of insecurity. Yes – I too have taken 57 selfies to find the perfect angle/lighting/etc. I can be vain. Yes – I too have taken a picture of my kids and then realized that my house is too messy in the background to post it. I am overly sensitive, but try SO hard to be strong. I am motivated and focused at times, while frazzled and lazy other times. I am strong willed, but can be weak at times. I hate being alone and have a fear of losing things I love. I am generous, but can be selfish. I am forgiving. I am loving. I am talented and creative at times, yet sometimes feel totally defeated. I am patient, and still lose my sh*t every now and then. I am ALL of these different things wrapped into 1. Can you relate to me? Are you surprised that I can be so crazy sometimes? Aren’t we all?
Here’s the thing about IMAGE. We all have this image that we create for our outward appearance. I personally have strived to create this image of a strong, confident, superwoman mom who does it all with a smile. That is who I want so desperately to be and that is how I want to be perceived. But what others don’t see is the REST. Unless you’re my husband – he kind of sees it all (and somehow still loves me)! I see all too often people who have created certain images for themselves, not allowing anyone in on who the REAL person is. It’s not all rainbows and sunshine – FOR ANYONE. I don’t care who you are. We all have “stuff”. We’ve all been through hell at one time or another. We’ve all had defining moments in our lives that have shaped who we are and who we want to be.
There’s a lot people don’t know about me. I’ve done my best to be pretty transparent and raw within my blogs and social media posts. But – don’t we all have those parts of us that we just want to hide away? What do we do with those parts we are ashamed of? If you are smart – you enlist the right support system and you WORK tirelessly on those parts of yourself that you want to change. Or – you continue living in mediocrity and pretending you’re something you’re not. I don’t care how much success you have, how much money you have, how many god damn followers you have on social media. If you’re not raw and REAL…about where you’ve been and who you are – then why should people look up to you? You feel me? It’s my 2016 GOAL to give people the REAL AND RAW me. The good, the bad, the ugly. Take it or leave it.
I am not in ANY way saying that you shouldn’t promote a positive image…I am all about that. However – do yourself a favor and evaluate what image you are pushing out there. Then compare that image against who you REALLY are. If there is a gap – work on that gap! Every day! Work on closing that gap between who you want people to think you are and who you REALLY are. If you find yourself unable to close that gap on your own, then reach out to people who can help you achieve whatever it is you want to achieve. Make new friends, get a new support group, surround yourself with like-minded people. It helps. When you can confidently portray an image of who you are and look in the mirror knowing that you REALLY are all of those things – there is nothing like it.
Here’s to a year filled with promoting REALNESS – because I am sick of all the fake bullshit I see out there! Did I mention I have no filter, and also that I don’t care?